When I was 21, I had an abortion. I had started dating a graffiti writer who was eight years older than me. I had the opportunity to apply for this prestigious art fellowship in L.A., and I jumped at the chance. I ended up getting it and moving there. My lover came with me, and within a few weeks, I was pregnant. I made the decision to have unprotected sex with him because I felt connected to him; it was something I wanted to try out. I really believed I was in a strong, committed relationship. That wasn't the case, but, I didn't have the tools to realize that. I was very clear that I didn't want to continue the pregnancy.
This was the first time an artistic door was opening for me, and I knew having a child would impact my goals. It's been 15 years, I'm 36 now, and I encourage everyone to speak candidly about sex. A lot of our parents didn't have the tools or the time to talk about sex or relationships, but we can break that. Let's talk about sex in a positive way. Let's start with the fact that many of us use birth control precisely because we want to have sex in an enjoyable way without getting pregnant. For more info, check out the 1 in 3 campaign.